Autism and Family Estrangment


Coping with family estrangement is a rather new experience. With hindsight, one can note many of the innumerable contributing factors, instances, and experiences woven into a thick tapestry of separation. Parsing through such hindsight risks playing the blame game.

Frankly, I’m to busy to wallow in such psychological mire. Better to focus on the good. In what follows, I pay tribute to my parents from whom I am estranged. Doesn’t matter why, how, or when. Matters only that I live for today, to experience a better tomorrow, shared with my lovely wife and children.

I offer this tribute not out of engaging in some sort of public display motivated by narcissism. Clue: I have Asperger’s Syndrome / Autism, not narcissism. Though, I suspect one or two siblings might disagree. (What else is new)?

I do so to genuinely express my gratitude for the effort of my parents to assist me becoming the best person for which I am capable, acknowledge their love for me (and my lovely wife and children), and focus on the good. For there is much good for which to be grateful. I note five below. For what are you grateful?

I am grateful my parents taught me:

1. Work ethic. How? Parking an operating lawn mower in front of my bedroom window at 7:00 AM, on Saturday morning, during my teenage years, as a not so subtle hint to complete the yard work on his schedule. (Thanks, Dad).

2. Faith. Through their example.

3. To be loyal to your spouse. Again, by their example.

4. Love for learning.

5. How to shoot a basketball.



7 thoughts on “Autism and Family Estrangment

  1. A love of reading and learning: my dad never sat down without a book in his hand, nothing heavy or too thought-proving, but I was a bookworm from year dot and still am. He left school when he was 14, but had a quick mind for figures (unfortunately he didn’t pass this on to me!) whereas I tended towards literature and languages. Despite being a girl with 3 younger brothers he never made me feel less than and encouraged my schoolwork and entry to the girls’ grammar school. He never demurred about my wanting to go to university, never said it was a waste of time because I would end up getting married and having babies (which I did!). He was always proud of me no matter what. Thank you, Dad. I have written 3 posts about him on my blog. I hope you can reconcile with your family.

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  2. Odd Dad, your blog will soon be added to our Actually Autistic Blogs List ( Please click on the “How do you want your blog listed?” link at the top of that site to customize your blog’s description.
    Thank you.
    Judy (An Autism Observer)

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