Autism and Anger

very-angry-emojiSo, I’m going to share a link to what may be an uncomfortable topic for people with Autism Spectrum Disorder / Asperger’s Syndrome and their loved ones, friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, children, etc.
If you are on the spectrum, do read with an open heart.
I am on the spectrum, and while I am ashamed to admit, F— it(!), I struggle with anger. Always have, always struggled to understand why, and always loathed myself for that lack of understanding and inability to dial it down a notch — frankly several notches.

Usually these days, and I mean, like 90% of the time, I only get angry in the aftermath of a bad video game experience or, when I think or connect some sensory input with being a threat to my lovely wife and kids. Or, when a little furry extended family member named, Tucker, lifted his hind leg, and decided to mark his territory on a corner of our family tent. 

Our Tent
(Can I just say, that I LOVE this Big Agnes Diamond Fly 8 tent. I’m on the tall side, I can stand upright in this tent. My XXXL Cabela’s camp cot fits easily and there is plenty of room for the kids and lovely wife to spread out. Easy set up too).
Where was I, right….

Being diagnosed with ASD / Asperger’s just this year, offered some understanding and access to therapies / training that have opened new vistas. Openness and awareness must be the starting point from which one ventures to develop healthy coping strategies for that which one experiences on the spectrum and that which others experience through / by one on the spectrum.

Please share any healthy coping strategies on which you rely or have recommended, taught, or observed in others?

PS —

As I finish up this post, my special little Aspie is angrily displaying his views about having to stop what he is doing, get dressed, so that we can get out the door.


My poor wife and daughter.

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2 thoughts on “Autism and Anger

  1. A young Aspie I know was encouraged to express his anger when very young by punching cushions and as a teenager, using a punchbag. He also has learned when he needs a self-imposed ‘time-out’ and will remove himself from the situation and spend either a few moments or a few hours on his own until he can rejoin the others.

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    1. thank you, all great suggestions. mine was shooting some hoop (basketball), alone or hitting the gym for extended periods of weight training. Since getting older, PhD, family, and career, I have not had the same access or time flexibility. Must look into punching bag. (Thank you)! Though, we will soon be staring Martial Arts as a family. Looking forward to observe how that activity helps.

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